Brief Coaching on How to Have the “First Conversation” with Your Partner or Spouse

Have you only just recently discovered that your partner is a sex addict? Are you feeling isolated, alone, and don’t know where to turn or with whom to discuss this subject?

Are you embarrassed? Disoriented from the waves of rage, hurt, disbelief, and maybe even nausea, that keep washing over you?

If so, you’re not alone.

The most important step to take once you discover your partner or spouse is a sex addict is to gently approach that person and let him or her know that you’re grappling with this realization.

I know this may seem a bit scary… In fact, the very idea of having this conversation may be downright terrifying. However, it’s not uncommon for our partners and spouses to feel a sense of relief when they’ve been “discovered,” and many even welcome the opportunity to get this off their chests and out into the light.

That being said, you shouldn’t be surprised if your partner or spouse becomes angry or denies their addiction… In either case, at least you’ve taken the first step to get the problem out in the open and begin acknowledging, speaking, and living your truth.

The key is not to be confrontational, which may be easier said than done! Because sex addicts have such deep shame, they’re likely to be more forthcoming with a softer approach.

This is why one of the many support services I offer partners and spouses of sex addicts is a short, 30-minute consultation/coaching call via GoToMeeting, Skype, or phone that is designed specifically to plan and practice this initial conversation with your partner or spouse.

This initial conversation can set the tone for all that is to follow… It can help you both clear the air and allow compassion, rather than rancor and blame, to be the place from which you approach these volatile issues.

So, if you’d like some pointers for this initial conversation with your spouse or partner, as well as to learn how to keep calm while having it, click the “Schedule Appointment” button below to book your 30-minute consultation… It’s only $50, and the peace of mind it can bring both you and your relationship is invaluable. So, take action now, while you’re thinking about it…

Remember, you don’t have to go through any of this alone! I’ve been there myself. I will help you. You already possess the innate resiliency, health, and wisdom to begin healing. We all do.

You can learn to cope with the confusion, anger, anxiety, and shame of discovering your partner is a sex addict, regain your equilibrium, feel better, and learn how to create healthier relationships and move forward with self-confidence. And the individual consultations I provide can help!

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